“There is no school equal to a decent home and no teacher equal to a virtuous parent.”
― Mahatma Gandhi
“The home is the first and most effective place to learn the lessons of life: truth, honor, virtue, self-control, the value of education, honest work, and the purpose and privilege of life. Nothing can take the place of home in rearing and teaching children, and no other success can compensate for failure in the home.”
― David O. McKay
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Being a stay-at-home-mom is not that easy, and to homeschool sounds even crazier, at least to people from where I was raised. However, I’m very glad that I decided to accept this exciting challenge, and I’m proud to say we are all still very happy about it =)
Homeschooling my children has given me more sense of purpose and a new perspective as a stay-at-home-mom, it keeps my relationship with my children closer and more special, and I am involved and participate directly in my children’s learning and interests.
I Gain a Refreshed Perspective and Purpose about Being a Stay-at-Home Mom
Nowadays, Many people don’t think that stay-at-home mom is the most vital role or responsibility for women anymore. Some women think working is more necessary or fulfilling, and some women view stay-at-home moms as babysitters. For me, I still firmly believe every household needs a stay-at-home mom, who cares for all the family member’s’ physical, emotional, spiritual, and educational needs 24/7, so I strive to keep my perspective and purpose as a mother fresh in my mind.
People have asked me, “Do you really enjoy teaching your children at home?” Of course, I love it, I get to teach my OWN kids and create wonderful memories with them. Even though there are lots of ups and downs, I try to overcome my fear and limitations. Whenever I start setting goals and planning, my vision and excitement of homeschooling come back to me again.
Here is my list of “Refreshed Perspectives” that I gained from homeschooling:
- I don’t feel guilty anymore about letting my children do whatever they want in the morning. (E.g.: I have different stations with toys, coloring books, paper & glue, craft materials all set up)
- I don’t need to make extra time to teach them subjects that school may not provide. (E.g.: piano lessons, clean-up & organization skills, simple basic cooking skills, taking care of siblings, etc…)
- Our “School Time” routine has gradually become part of our every day. (E.g.: Even on the weekends, of course, no school, but my kids still ask me if they can use the school packages, or the school matching game to play with.)
- My children have a habit of finding educational things to do in their free time and do not want TV or video games. (E.g.: Because they had fun in school time, they choose to play the puzzles or worksheets from school whenever they have free time.)
- My daily life is well-balanced. (E.g.: I have to plan out all the activities and things that need to be done for the day. Plus, I know exactly where my children have been, what they have learned, and how much time they have spent resting, playing, or playing with other kids.)
I Have Closer Relationship with My Children
Homeschooling has provided extra TIME for our family to be closer to each other.
What are some things we did to strengthen our relationship:
- School Time: One of the best ways to build a relationship with people is to do things together. During “School Time”, we read stories to each other, play Math games together, and do all sorts of activities together. We have more time to learn how others think, and how others understand things.
- Precious Moment: This is actually a reward for my children. If they did everything they were supposed to, and nap well, they get to wake up a little earlier and have a “Precious Moment” with me. I can’t believe how excited my children are when they get time to do whatever they want with me ALONE. They can pick their favorite stories to read, color our coloring pages together, play sticker books or games together. I think sometimes it’s important to give children freedom to choose, and that’s why it called Precious Moment.
- Service Time: We don’t sit down and read and write in 3 hours in school time. We actually MOVE a lot. We serve each other by doing chores together: cleaning up the table, vacuuming, putting laundry into the washing machine, folding laundry, washing dishes, cleaning the bathroom… Never look down on the power of service. When they understand they are serving each other and helping mom. They are MORE willing, and they are happier. So I think through Service Time, we have learned to serve, help, and love each other even more.
I Am Be Responsible for My Own Children’s Education
Everyone wants to feel useful and to able to be in charge of something big. Yup! Being a mother has given me that sense of responsibility, but being a homeschooling mom has brought it to the next level.
Being a mother, I plan and organize their meals, schedules, and all sorts of daily tasks. But being a homeschooling mom, I think deeper, what they want to know, what they are interested in, what they should know right now and etc. I won’t just talk with them once or twice a day, but I plan and prepared fun activities, sensory bins, and even pretend play or field trips for my children during “School Time”. I don’t need to wait for the school teacher arrange these things, I have the opportunity to fulfill my own children’s needs.
I feel I am not just a mother for my children, but I also have the opportunity to be their teacher, educator, and playmate.
I Become a Life-Long Learner
Even though I graduated from BYU already, and I don’t have any papers to write or exams to take. I still love to educate myself. Being a homeschooling mom has given me opportunities to learn continually with my children.
- English: My English is not perfect at all, even though I studied English for my whole life and have my degree from a University in the U.S.A. at the same time, I have never studied in any American elementary school, I had no idea American kids don’t learn English grammar like I did, or that they learn English with phonics and rhymes. So I spent a lot of time studying these things myself in order to prepare to teach my children.
- Chinese: Yes! Chinese! I know I am capable of teaching my children Chinese, but I have never experienced how to learn as a bilingual like my children. Sometimes, I have no idea if I should only speak Chinese with them, or I should use both languages at home. Because of the situation, I encouraged myself to research and study more about language acquisition and methods to teach my children.
- All Other Subjects and Skills: I am so glad I have this wonderful opportunity to update my knowledge of other subjects and skills, I have more confidence to teach my children.
Being a homeschooling mom allows me to have a purposeful mindset all the time, establish a great relationship with my children, be able to educate my children, and enrich myself at the same time.
I Love being a Homeschooling Mom!
How about you? What do you gain from homeschooling your children?
What are some favorite benefits from homeschooling that you enjoy the most?
You Might be Interested:
- 5 Unexpected Benefits of Homeschooling (Embark on the Journey)She got an interesting view of some benefits of homeschooling as well. Let’s see what they are.
- Homeschooling 101 (123 Homeschool 4 Me)It has ALL the basic information and ways of how to start homeschooling, of course, there are reasons why we should homeschool as well.
- Homeschooling: Where Academics & Survival Skills Meet (The Survival Mom)Yes! I agree. She gave some specific examples that will surprise you.
- Do Homeschoolers Measure Up? (The Heart of Michelle)Amazing Image of the history of homeschooling, all the statistic, and the results of different research to confirm you that homeschooling is a great choice.
100 Reasons Why Homeschooling is Good for Families (Abundant Life)
A list of 100 reasons why homeschooling is good for families? Yes. They are all great reasons. Some of the reasons I couldn’t think about before. It was a great article that I enjoy it a lot.