Have you ever wondered, after you thought you knew your children so well, why they behaved the way they did? Were you ever baffled, after years of guiding them, when they chose a different path? That’s why I decided to do a formal “end of unschooling year” interview with my four children in my husband’s studio in a professional setting.

Through this interview, I understood my childrens’ perspectives, hopes, and dreams. I was able to assess their process of unschooling and know what to plan next. Most importantly, I was able to figure out if unschooling was a good fit for each of them.

In this blog post, I’m going to share with you:

• The benefits of interviewing your children
• How the results & experience of the interview help with planning & decision making
• Our interview questions with my children’s answers

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I’m an unschooling mom of 5 children who has taught them 24/7 since their birth. I’ve witnessed their first tooth, first step, and have celebrated all their milestones. I can even tell who is walking in my room by their unique steps.

I know them well.

But sometimes, I am still not sure if I fully understand them, especially my pre-teens.

Doing interviews with our children is a shortcut to learn more about them in one setting.

5 Reasons to Interview Your Kids

Observing our children is a great way to get to the surface. Interviewing gives us the details and information to make changes in their lives.

I strongly encourage you to try it. Kids have wonderful ideas and unique ways to think, and most of the time it’s very entertaining.

An interview makes me actually listen to them

With five children constantly asking for my help, I have learned to tune out and nod for an answer, so I can move on.

Did I really listen to them and understand their needs?

Nope. Not until I completely stopped what I was doing and gave them my full attention.

While I was asking questions during the interview, I actually learned a lot from them.

For example, I’ve learned:

• What is their favorite activity and subject to learning
• What they think is the most important thing to do every day
• Some have changed their favorite animals
• Some have changed their dream career

An interview gives us information before any decision making

• Does homeschooling work for our children?
• Does the curriculum or schedule work for them?
• Should we keep homeschooling or go back to school?
• What subjects should our children learn next year?

There are many decisions we have to make for our children, such as what after-homeschool classes to take, which co-op to join, or even what subjects to learn.

Individualized education is one of the beauties of homeschooling.

I would like each of my children to be able to choose for themselves, so they can follow their passions. I want each of them to grow their interest to see the world.

All the answers and insights I received from our interview are perfect references to guide our children. Especially because they did not come from me, but from my children.

An interview is a fun family bonding activity

Especially with younger children, it’s so fun to listen to their answers.

You can learn so much about what TV shows they are watching, books they are reading, or what things they’re concerned about.

Maybe it would be fun to let them interview their parents too, and make it a family tradition before the new year.

About our interview

In this interview, I interviewed four of my children.

• 4 years old (preschooler)
• 7 years old (2nd grader)
• 9 years old (4th grader)
• 11 years old (6th grader)

My goal for this interview is simple – to understand them better.

I would like to know:

1. Do they know the difference between homeschooling and public school?
2. Do they enjoy being homeschooled?
3. What are their current interests and dreams?
4. Are they happy?

Our Interview Questions

These are the questions I asked them during the interview.

I started with some basic and simple questions to warm them up, and then I went to some deeper questions.

• What grade are you in?
• What do you want to be when you grow up?
• What are your favorite animals?
• What is your favorite food?
• What are your favorite subjects?
• What makes you happy?
• What kind of person would you like to be?
• How long have you been a homeschooler?
• Do you like being homeschooled?
• What are your 3 favorite homeschooling activities?
• What’s your favorite lesson to learn with mom & dad?
• What’s the difference between homeschooling and school?
• What do you think you miss out on because you’re homeschooled?
• What would you do if you were in charge of the homeschooling day?
• If other people are considering homeschooling, what would you tell them?
• Give me 1 word about our homeschooling

If you have any suggestions or questions for our next interview, feel free to leave me a comment below.

Watch the Interview here

Valuable information I have learned from the interview

They like my cooking, and they like our schedule and routine so far.

They also like me to be their teacher. What a relief! I often think about all the subjects and skills that I don’t have, and worry I’m not good enough for my children. But through this interview, I’ve learned I should not worry about it. I’m what they need right now.

I heard all their interests, dreams, and things that they want to accomplish. Because of this, I learned what kind of homeschooling co-op, classes, or field trips I should sign up for. Now we don’t need to waste time and money to try everything. Instead, we can focus on the activities that will enhance and motivate their learning.

In addition, I will increase the time to get outside. I will sign up for wild school and have lunch outside more often.

P.S. They actually don’t get to do whatever they want all the time. I’m still pretty strict with their use of time. But many people tell them that unschoolers can do whatever they want all the time. And that’s where they get the ideas.

My Advice for all Parents

You don’t have to be a homeschooling parent to interview your kids.

You can do it anytime and in any setting!

Giving our children an interview creates a wonderful opportunity to listen and learn about them in more depth.

For a lot of problems and concerns I have for my children, I received inspiration and answers from interviewing them.

It helped me to:

• Change my perspective and expectations
• Humble myself and open my eyes
• Strengthen my trust and faith in my children

Most importantly, it gave us some solid answers about our children and their wants and needs.

Let’s Get Ready for the Interview

If your heart is pounding while reading this blog post, that’s your answer!

You want the same thing, and you want to know you are making the right decision for your family and your children.

Let’s do it! It can be very simple and easy to do.

Here are 4 steps to start preparing for your interview

1. Brainstorm a list of questions that you want to ask your children. Write down all of them even if you may not ask them, because you can use these questions later.

2. Pick no more than 20 questions and put them in order: make sure to start with some warmup questions and then go in depth.

3. Schedule and block an hour next week to do the interview

4. Grab your phone with a tripod and start interviewing your children one by one.

Please tag me @fortunecookiemom or message me when you finish interviewing your children, and tell me how it was.

I’d love to hear from you and celebrate with you.

Do you have any other questions about homeschooling/ unschooling? Feel free to leave a comment below and let me know, I’d love to chat with you and support you.

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